“The law of attraction is this: You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are.”
~Dr. Wayne Dyer
The Law of Attraction has been promoted as the answer to everything, lambasted as chicanery, put forth as the way to a new Cadillac on your driveway, and avoided as a tool of the devil.
In truth, the Law of Attraction is none of those. Like much of life, it’s about us. It’s about making internal changes to align us with our desires – and more importantly, to align our desires with us, with who we truly are.
This is the part the Law of Attraction that most people overlook when they try to apply it to their wants and desires.
It’s a characteristic of our culture to promote conspicuous consumerism, and many people align themselves with this facet of our culture because, I think, it holds a great deal of appeal and requires little of them. They often identify themselves not by who they are but by what they have: a house in the right neighborhood, a new car, the right label on their clothes, the right store name on their shopping bags.
But this doesn’t identify anyone; rather, it says that this person doesn’t really know who she is or what she has to offer the world. Sometimes it means the person is insecure and a little vulnerable, sometimes it means he’s a shallow thinker or lacks empathy, and sometimes it means that she’s a little naïve and inexperienced. It almost always means that the person has bought into the cultural lie that possessing things – the right things, no less – fulfills your purpose as a human and endows you with value and meaning.
The Law of Attraction has nothing to offer such a person, especially those who have no desire to learn, grow, and give back to the world. For those for whom “it’s all about meeeee!”, the Law of Attraction will inevitably be a disappointment.
For those who are looking to expand themselves, however, the Law of Attraction has much to offer.
The Law of Attraction is a universal law governing all matter and energy. It’s not a cosmic candy machine. The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like”. We find this principle in much of science, and in every major religion. When a principle appears in multiple disciplines almost unchanged, there is truth to it.
Those who have used the principles of the Law of Attraction effectively are those who understand that everything has a frequency. In humans, the most powerful frequencies, other than those generated by the electrochemical system that is our body, are thoughts. The brain functions on various frequencies throughout the day and night, depending on what the person is doing.
A person just going about her daily business is generally operating in the wavelength named beta. Beta waves are fairly fast, and allow the random movement from one thought to another without much resistance.
A person who is daydreaming, studying, memorizing, or playing a musical instrument but following music exactly is using brain waves called alpha. Alpha waves are slower than beta waves, and are the brainwave of people who describe themselves as being “in the zone”.
Those who are working deeply with their creativity, those who are mostly unaware of their surroundings while they’re working, are in theta. Theta waves are slower than alpha waves, and are associated with large creative leaps and the creation of great works of art and science. Theta brain states usually are associated with a strong use of one or more of the senses in the work being done. Those with synesthesia frequently drop into theta waves when they experience their synesthesia.
Delta waves are slower still, and most people only experience them when they’re deeply asleep, and so have no conscious memory of the delta state. Delta waves can be generated and experienced while awake, however, and are associated with deep emotional and creative shifts. Those in delta state are susceptible to suggestions from others, and it is important to make certain that no unwanted suggestions be made during delta.
Understanding that brains have frequencies that are attuned to certain types of activities, the person wishing to use the Law of Attraction can enter these states to determine what would be most beneficial to self and others to attract, and to align with those frequencies. When in alpha or theta, aligning with the frequencies of the desired outcome is easily done. From that point, focusing on the outcome while entering into the brainwave state associated with it allows the desired outcome to flow into practical experience. While the exact science of how this occurs is complex, the procedure to accomplish it is easy.
The biggest obstacle for some people is the unwillingness to become a fitting receiver of the outcomes desired and attracted.
Internal changes occur easily when aligned with the frequencies of beneficial outcomes, especially when the welfare of others is included in the desired outcome.
In the end, it is we who change to align with the outcome, and then nothing can stop the outcome from manifesting in the practical reality of one’s life.
~ Rebecca Ellen Augustine
You struggle every morning to get out of bed and start the same old routine that you've done every day for the last umpteen years. Get out of bed, get dressed, consume some fuel for the day, drive the minutes/hours to the job that fills the majority of space in your life, and then reverse the process. You get home, you consume some fuel for the evening, maybe watch some TV/surf the web, get undressed and go to bed; only to do it all again tomorrow.
You wonder what the hell happened? Where did all the time go? Better yet, where did all the passion and drive go? When you first started this adult thing, it was go, go, go, until you flopped into bed at the end of the day, feeling exhausted and accomplished! Now, you lay awake for hours staring at the ceiling, contemplating your universe, wondering why you can't sleep?
You're tired all the time now. You used to be able to work all day, party into the wee hours of the morning, and then get up and start again; now you struggle to get to the bathroom to shower and brush your teeth in the morning. You gaze into the mirror at the stranger in front of you - is that Mom/Dad looking back at me? You look again and realize that it's you; older, but still you. You quickly turn away, preferencing the image of yourself in your mind's eye.
Five minutes to departure and you can't find your keys, your shoes, or the papers for the morning meeting. You wander around the house, scratching your head. You didn't have this problem last year. When you finally arrive at the office, the majority of your co-workers are strangers, younger, more agile, quicker than you. You start to wonder if they might be smarter than you too. You start to keep your head down and nose to the grindstone. Ageism in the workplace is real; everyone knows that. You start to feel like you have something to prove, or you have to justify your position, or that you are still the right person for the position.
The morning meeting. Your co-workers talk over you, or around you. You feel like you're wasting your time. You start to feel like everyone's mom or dad in the workplace ~ awkward, nobody likes to party with parents; right? Resentment sets in. You know more about this place than anyone else in the room. You were wining and dining potential clients, while the rest of them were still drinking juice out of sippy cups in daycare! Resentment morphs to anger and back and forth and back and forth; resentment, anger, resentment, anger...
You dread reading your email everyday, wondering when the email to meet with the boss and HR is going to come. Deep inside you know it will; one day. You've watched it happen to former co-workers for years, and have always known that your turn is coming - someday. You just don't quite know when. The anxiety is overwhelming some days. What will you do if comes? What if it's today?
The frosting on the cake is when you find yourself grieving a loss that hasn't happened yet. Boredom sets in, which breeds mild to severe depression - depending on the other circumstance that are going on in your life - perhaps a looming empty-nest. If you find that you are suffering from depression - mild or severe - go to your doctor immediately. Depression clouds the judgment of even the strongest minds. Rash decisions are not the answer to your problems: Quitting your job, leaving your spouse, or buying extravagant high-ticket items can all lead to long-term ramifications that can result in undesired results.
Conversations with your spouse or friends turn to: "I just feel so burned out. I don't want to do this anymore. I want to live life, not just exist". It has come to the point where you feel like you are just coasting to the finish line. All the hopes and dreams you had way back in your twenties, never came to fruition, because life happened instead. You feel somewhat cheated. You feel like life hasn't been all that you thought it would be.
For people, men and women, who are forty/forty-something to their early fifties, this is not burnout. It's the shift that we all experience, and none of us will escape. It is the natural order of things. The question is; are you prepared for it? Have you even thought about it?
Start making a plan for what your end of career is going to look like.
Retirement is about more than money and net worth. It's about quality of life and a sense of centered self, and sliding into the finish line dirty, scraped up, every bit of talents and gifts used up, looking like something the cat dragged in, because all of this means you have truly lived!
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